Category Everyday Living

Being a Black Woman in an Alabama Waffle House

Early Sunday morning on April 22, 2018, police in Saraland, Alabama responded to a call by a white waitress complaining about a Black woman who was a patron in the restaurant. What appears to have been the woman expressing discontent at being asked to pay a surcharge for plastic utensils, resulted in police slamming the […]

Social Justice is a Lifestyle, but I Still Have a Lane

I have been blessed to have a career that aligns with my personal beliefs. But it has been a journey to realize that what I’ve actually developed over time is a lifestyle. Fighting the good fight, so to speak, doesn’t end at 5 p.m. It involves speaking up when you see something wrong, showing up […]

Privilege: The thing that unites white people everywhere

Here are a few snippets of the ugly side of privilege…

Microaggressions (a.k.a. Some B***s***)

This is a post about microaggressions. Except I hate calling them that, much for the same reason that people hate the term “alt-right.” I’d rather call these things what they are…some b***s***. My name is Portia. And for reasons that I sometimes understand (but mostly don’t), people have a hell of a time pronouncing my […]

Coonhound Lives Matter

Over two-and-a-half years ago I wrote a post that involved a dog, a coonhound. At the time it was probably one of the most trivial, train-of-thought things I had ever written (this includes a brief stint at diary writing in elementary school). (Un)surprisingly, this random post about a casual conversation is (by far) the most read post […]

Midget Indians and the Teachable Moments of Everyday Racism

Every Memorial Day my daughter and mother go to a camp in the mountains to partake in nature and its attendant outdoor activities. Knowing that I’d get cool mom bonus points forever if I go, I decided to go meet them up there this year. Had I not, my writing drought may have continued. My […]

Being the Only One

I haven’t been the only one since I can remember. Even when my parents moved from Newark to South Orange, NJ my best friend (the only other brown girl in my first grade class) was my ally. There’s a comfort in numbers, and an unexplained understanding. As I matriculated through SOMW School District the numbers […]